Wednesday, April 5, 2017

From Avatars to Dating Sites

I don’t think it is a stretch to say someone is accessing social media somewhere every minute of everyday. We can be so glued to our devices. But why? Why do we spend hours a day on social media putting up a facade; pretending and sharing with the world? I would venture to say that for the most part, people present their best self or even a fake self on social media. From what I have seen and experienced myself, this facade stems from the fear of judgement and rejection. We are afraid of what others will think of us if we show our true colors.

As we look at the article “Performing the Looking-Glass Self: Avatar Appearance and Group Identity in Second Life by Mia Consalvo, we learn that, “the virtual world Second Life (SL) offers its residents extraordinarily complex tools to design visual representations of themselves as avatars”.
 
You don’t have to be artistically inclined or have complex design skills to create and display an avatar online for all to see. These avatars seem to have certain things in common, says Consalvo. She says that you will see that “most avatars are human, or at least humanoid, and most of them are recognizably Caucasian; most are young and beautiful; most correspond to traditional gender distinctions in shape and dress.” Consalvo goes on to say that these facts are interesting because people can make up any type of avatar such as dragons or robots, monsters or other animals but they choose human avatars most of the time.


What I want to do is take these facts and twist them a little. Social media is not the only place where avatars have similar attributes. These avatars recur on dating sites. People tend present themselves in similar ways according to what people are looking for. It can all be fake. Why tell the truth when you can skew the truth so that you are more likable online? I have visited different dating sites and have found (for the most part) no restrictions on what you can put on them and what kind of avatar or profile you can create.

Being single and ready to mingle can make a person desperate to catch someone's attention. We put our best "selfie" on the website and describe ourselves the way we think people want instead of putting something about who we really are. We create a separate self with the face of our selfie avatar. I honestly have a hard time with this. I am a people pleaser and am guilty of stretching the truth a bit. Instead of putting that I like camping but love art, I might say that I like art but have a love for the outdoors. Also, I have freedom to put that I am a red head instead of stating the facts, that I am strawberry blonde. I can even change the filter so that my face looks flawless.  

I think that this is creating a world of lies. We are starting to figure out that we can be whoever we want to be even if it is totally different than who we really are. Social media and dating sites have created this "second life" or life separate from the reality that we live in. It can be fun and innocent on one hand but manipulative and misleading on the other. 

So here is my question: Why do you create an avatar? How does your avatar compare to you in real life?

14 comments:

  1. This comment has been removed by the author.

    ReplyDelete
  2. Amazing blog. Very Interesting. Sign up for free to dating site datemymba.com. it is the online dating platform where user can do free registration and then user will be able to search professional and date with them. https://www.datemymba.com

    ReplyDelete
  3. When you are seeking how to find a threesome, you can join this popular 3some dating community which members can search, meet, chat and date.

    ReplyDelete
  4. Thank you for such a well written article. It’s full of insightful information and entertaining descriptions.
    Best Free Online Dating Sites | Best OnlineDatingWebsites

    ReplyDelete

  5. Women seeking couples or couple looking for women for bisexual dating or hookup? Check the reliable and popular bisexual chat room for bisexual women, bisexual men and bi couples to find and meet potential bisexual partners now.

    ReplyDelete
  6. his is my first time i visit here. I found so many entertaining stuff in your blog, especially its discussion. From the tons of comments on your articles, I guess I am not the only one having all the leisure here! Keep up the excellent work.
    BBW

    ReplyDelete
  7. Thanks for the great post on your blog, it really gives me an insight on this topic.[url=https://datingproduct1995.blogspot.com]datingproduct[/url]
    [url=https://datingproduct1995.blogspot.com]datingproduct[/url]

    ReplyDelete
  8. "Real dating place.if you need partner??:singlewomenI am very happy see this site."

    ReplyDelete
  9. Thanks for taking the time to discuss this, I feel strongly about it and love learning more on this topic. interracial dating sites

    ReplyDelete
  10. Should I call him or wait for him to call? That's one of the most common Dating questions and for most women they really don't understand what the right answer is. Find out who should be doing the calling in your relationship.

    ReplyDelete
  11. Compensated websites offer more characteristics, company, and generally give a dependable and well-managed site. However, it could possibly get expensive, particularly if you have not decided who you're seeking, or why. Since some web sites charge'per message ', it's a common sense to just deliver messages to prospective times that fit your ideal. On one other hand, some paid web sites have several features that you might never use - such as for instance chat and real-world social occasions. So you may believe that some websites are bad value for money. And eventually, many paid sites have really attractive marketing on the net, and you can be unhappy when you will find your website does not surpass the'hoopla'defined in their advertising. Nonetheless, paid websites are remarkably popular, and I suggest with them if (and just if) you're fairly clear and professional about who you are trying to find, and you are organized to set up the full time and income to locate them. Escorts in Lahore

    ReplyDelete
  12. When the dating website members know that more information that is associated with online dating can be found from one site like their dating site, they would be very happy to continue with the dating website's service. It is very convenient for the members to refer to just one site for most of their meeting needs, if not all. Lahore Escorts

    ReplyDelete
  13. My spouse and I found you from a another page plus thought I might check things out on We like what I view thus now I am a fan. Look toward exploring your web site again. Incidentally what about Muammar Gaddafi breathtaking media stories what do you really think . Kudos … Irrigation System Maintenance chat rooms

    ReplyDelete
  14. I actually enjoy the posting. It usually is wonderful to evaluate any one demonstrate around thoughts in the cardiac coupled with lucidity in this significant dilemma can be immediately found. dan holzmann wikipedia

    ReplyDelete